Hola Fierce Friend,

Last year, I found myself standing in a warehouse wearing knee pads, elbow pads, a helmet, and roller skates.

If you had told me a few years earlier that I would voluntarily sign up for roller derby, I probably would have laughed.

But there I was, wondering if I had completely lost my mind.

The truth is, I didn't sign up because I wanted to become a roller derby girl.

I signed up because I was tired of letting fear make my decisions.

Like many women, I had become very good at staying where I felt comfortable.

I knew how to be competent.

I knew how to be responsible.

I knew how to stay in my lane.

What I wasn't doing was taking risks.

Then came the first lesson of roller derby training.

We weren't learning how to skate.

We weren't learning how to stop.

We were learning how to fall.

And that is when it hit me: maybe confidence isn't built by avoiding failure. Maybe confidence is built by learning that you can survive it.

As a therapist, I see this all the time.

Women waiting until they feel confident enough to start.

Confident enough to apply.

Confident enough to speak up.

Confident enough to take the chance.

But confidence rarely comes first.

More often, confidence is built after we do the scary thing and discover that we can handle the outcome.

I wrote more about this idea, what roller derby taught me about resilience, and why learning to "fall small" may be one of the most important skills we can develop.

If you've been feeling stuck, hesitant, or afraid to take the next step because you might fail, I think this will resonate with you.

Read the full article here:

Building Confidence: Learning to Fall Small
https://marcierey.com/building-confidence-learning-to-fall-small/

Sometimes growth is not about getting everything right.

Sometimes it is about being willing to be a beginner.

To look awkward.

To try anyway.

And to trust yourself enough to get back up when things don't go perfectly.

If this resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you.

Just hit reply and tell me:

What is something you've been wanting to try, but fear has been talking you out of?

Stay Fierce,

Marcie Rey

P.S. If you know a woman who has been waiting until she feels "confident enough" to take the next step, forward this to her.

We are redefining what strength looks like.